Originally Posted by tercera
Is it worth losing everything because there are things I donīt like?
I've found that if I can't accept that I might end up alone, then I'm not ready for a new relationship. It's only when I know I can be happy alone that I'm in shape for a relationship.
Those things you don't like can lead to the end of the relationship down the road AFTER you've invested more time and energy in it. That's a harder landing than if it ends in the initial stages.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.