Originally Posted by Magdalena
Sooo, I am wondering if I should pursue this relationship as separate (me friends/husband dating) or should I just break it off totally, or should we all just stop and be friends. My husband has made it clear that he will only go as far as I can handle it, and will not jeopardize our love.
So far we have done everything together, dating, sex, sleeping.
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I'd say yes, pursue individual relationships. Build a strong foundation with both. Don't forget the dating/sex/sleeping with your husband, either! Enjoy the NRE that spills into your established relationship with hubby.
Threesomes (dates, sex, cuddles) in my experience can be real fun in moderation, but connections for me deepen during one-on-one time. Spending all the time together the three of you can also be an excellent recipe for incontrollable jealousy.
"Resentment destroys more alcoholics than anything else. From it stems the root of our spiritual disease."
"In dealing with resentments, we set them on paper - list people, institutions and principles with whom you are angry. Ask yourself why you are angry."
"In most cases it was found out that our self-esteem, our pocketbooks, our ambitions, our personal relationships, including sex, were hurt or threatened. We were sore, burnt-up." Alcoholics Anonymous, 64-65.