No -- I'm the one who asked "do you want to submit a bill now" -- eek reading it back that sounded like a really mean thing to say!
I am sorry!! It was coming from some personal resentments I am feeling in my own life. It was an insensitive comment! I think you were treated poorly and I feel bad for you. What I was trying to convey is: don't let that pain turn to resentment for the love you gave, because THAT part of it was good. If you can find a way to salvage the good, I think it can ease the bitterness a little. Again, I apologize for sounding like a jerk