Originally Posted by nycindie
He kept on saying, "But don't you want commitment?" And I kept on saying, "Polyamory is about commitment, it's just being committed to more than one person." And he actually had the nerve to counter with, "But what are you committing to? Nothing." Ugh, I think we went over it and said these same lines at least five times.
You should have just told him the facts straight up: you have commitment in spades. If anybody has a problem, it's him, as he can't bring himself to commit to more than one person at a time!
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.