Originally Posted by redpepper
To me having anyone else on a first date, would not be a first date. It would be a meeting.
I'm with you. Such a meeting wouldn't be a date. Nor would it would last an evening for dinner and drinks or anything similar. Want to have coffee and a short chat? Sure. Meet somewhere and have a beer? Perhaps. Make an evening of it when there's no way it can be a date? No.
I prefer any women interested in me speak with Curly prior to any great involvement, sure. I'm certainly not going to ask anybody on a date with Curly along, for that wouldn't be a date. I believe that would be rude--any lady interested in a date with me isn't automatically signing on for a date with Curly.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.