I'm on this site because I'm trying to understand in what ways I'm doing poly right and in what ways I'm doing it wrong. That's not to say I think there is only one right and many wrong ways, but to say I can better understand what's wrong and right for me through dialogue or lurking. I'll probably do a lot more lurking until I feel comfortable.
I'm in my 30s, had been married, currently dating openly. I'm also into the mental domination aspects of bdsm, along with biting, slapping, squeezing.
My concern is that, right now, I think I'm more in the mode of simple promiscuity than polyamory, though in the past I did love several people at the same time. I just could not act on those feelings and earnest, eager thoughts for social reasons.
Hopefully, I'll figure out how to work well at this and have ethical and responsible relationships, and any help along the way will be appreciated.