Originally Posted by Carma
It's ok to take protective measures to keep your sanity. You don't have to swirl, just because someone else is.
Good suggestions here.
Of course people can change. But that means everyone in that abusive dynamic needs to change. What's the goal? Healthy relationship, right?! There are two people contributing to the dysfunctional behavior patterns.
Get help for you and the rest will happen.
Best of luck BU. You are not alone in dealing with a loved one that needs help with anger or communication problems. We all have in some sense had to deal with it.