Yes, we were concerned with others coming between us at first, but I would say that if he was affectionate to both of you and the night went well, then they've probably got their shit together.
If these are things that you eventually want from him, I don't think it's premature to ask if you can have them when the time comes. If he plans on treating you in a bad secondary way, and totally doesn't see you fitting into his life in the way you would like to fit into someone's life, then best to get that sorted out right away, yes?
Just make sure he understands you're not asking for equality now, but that a more coprimary footing is where you'd like to be, eventually.
I'm a pansexual female, married to and living with Indigo
(straight male), in a relationship with and living with Mr. A (straight, mono male).
One day I might stop "practicing" polyamory and just start living it!
Here Be Dragons
Originally Posted by AutumnalTone
Nobody gets a toaster oven for recruiting monos.