Originally Posted by redpepper
Playing lip service to that is different than being actively involved with ex loves.
My oldest is still closely in touch with damn near every person I've ever dated. Several of them were at the hospital when the grandbaby was born.
My younger kids know the ones who still live near us, because they come over and visit and we go see them.
If you are careful about who you become involved with, there's rarely a reason to "hate" each other when you find out that you are no longer compatible as lovers. It's possible to AT THE VERY LEAST remain congenial with one another.
If you ensure that you don't bring lovers into your life that aren't great for your kids-there's no reason to allienate them from the kids if and when you stop being lovers.