I thought I was the one who was being the "heavy guy".
I think I said in the other thread (maybe not) that it would be grooovy to hear the other side(s) of this story.
However, what you need to do is make decisions that are RIGHT for YOURSELF, and don't get married or decide not to get married because of other people's opinions or your families' expectations. So far, it sounds like your crises stem from "what will everyone THINK if I do this or that?"
You have to decide what's right for YOU, and start putting yourself first in your life.