Originally Posted by younglove
I have always thought that being "in love" was something that needed to be mutual.
I believe you can be in love without it being mutual, provided you're not in a relationship with the person. It seems to me if, in a given dyad relationship, one person is in love and the other isn't, it's a recipe for disaster and heartbreak.
However, you can be in love and feed off of your own feelings and appreciate them without necessarily being loved in return, provided it becomes something personal, and the state of being in love becomes something like being happy from knowing the person, being happy when they're happy, etc.
And I would say that if the person either doesn't know about that love, or knows and accepts it (without reciprocating), it's better. I think having someone reject your feelings has a strong potential to turn the love into something that hurts.