Originally Posted by BlackUnicorn
My mum has a theory that gay people just feel attracted to someone they wish they could be more like
I think no matter your orientation, it's common to love someone you would want to be more like. You admire someone in some ways when you love them, and often you admire them because you feel you "couldn't do that".
And I've always been told that if you want to start dating or if you're looking for someone, you should become the person you would want to date. And that doesn't mean become a woman if you like women or anything like that, but become passionate, do what you like, etc.