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Old 04-11-2011, 11:13 AM
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Hi and welcome, although I bet you wish you wouldn't have to seek advice for this particular situation .

Your wife seems like a text-book case of an NRE monster. Now I think would be the time for some serious re-connecting between the two of you, maybe including putting the new man on the back-burner for a while.

Sadly, sex doesn't feel worth it if it's only something your partner does out of a sense of duty to avoid you leaving them. You didn't mention if you are mono heart and soul, or just out of circumstance.

From a very practical POW, would it pay to have the kids in daycare for a while? Is your wife a full-time homemaker or what's eating up her energy? The new relationship? How old are your kids and what do they think of all this? If she's the mother of a newborn this might be more deeply hormone- than poly-related.
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