Originally Posted by RitaFire
I am wondering how many people are in the same situation as my husband and I. They got married many years ago (at least 10 lets say), with the intention of being monogamous. Then decided to explore poly.
I think this is a different question from the one you asked though
It seems a bunch of people who are married where poly before they married, rather than getting married then coming out. So I don't think the answers are going to be that useful to answer your question...
I assume it's more challenging if you have to adapt to a poly situation than if you start into one right away. Seems kind of a no-brainer to me. Some people might find they fall into it "naturally" though, if they're both poly. It's when one partner comes out as poly and the other isn't that it would be an issue.