Originally Posted by AnotherConfused
Don't need to rub certain body parts together in order to have a connection, even if it would feel nice. [...] What keeps me from feeling like I'm trapped in a 5 star prison with my husband is that he is amaaaazingly open to my doing the things I need to do to be happy.
a) Hey! What kind of dancing do you do with D where you don't rub body parts together??? Whoops! My mistake: I just now noticed that word "certain". And I agree with you 100%! Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. (Not even - as far as I'm concerned - in a sexual relationship.) Your husband is to be admired (especially given his upbringing in India) to be happy with your other kinds of intimacy / love with other men.
b) I didn't write that you were
"trapped in a 5 star prison with [your] husband". I wrote: "I want you to imagine yourself in a prison cell..." I meant "imagine if you were
..." I think that - in that
case - you'd eventually discover that he doesn't (and can't) supply all
of your needs for human contact. (I'm afraid that I'm rather a fan of extreme [and far-fetched] examples to illustrate the point I'm trying to make.)