Good luck with your therapist. I did go to a poly and queer friendly therapist for 3 years. For the first year, I saw her twice a week, once alone and once with my soon-to-be-ex. I continued to go alone for the next 2 years after my husband quit. The therapist was awesome and helped me so much!
Then we changed insurance co's b/c of my ex's changing jobs. I tried another therapist who told me married women "shouldn't" ever get crushes on other people. The nerve! The stupidity! I never went back.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
There's no lying in polyamory!
I'm a 58 year old woman with 2 partners:
miss pixi, my live-in gf, 36 (together since Jan '09)
Ginger, bf, 61, married, lives nearby (together since Jan '12)