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Old 04-04-2011, 06:24 PM
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Originally Posted by Tonberry View Post
Jealousy is one of these feelings that just gets worse the more you focus on it. You can't wait for it to go away. You need to kill it, and sometimes the best way is to automate a reaction. For instance, make a list of things you really like doing. If you start a jealousy episode, pick one in the list, do it, and try and force yourself to focus all of your attention on it.
great suggestion! I will get working on this list.
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However I can't tell you what the source really is, from what you say it sounds like a fear of abandonment/exclusion? Do you have that fear in other contexts?
This is just my own armchair psych version - nothing a "professional" has told me, but I've seen enough Oprah episodes to figure it out, lol. My parents were divorced when I was one. My mother and I moved across the country. I spent some time with him until I was about 8 years old, then he stopped calling, wanting to see me, etc. Of course there is more to it than that, but I figure that if my own father didn't want me, why would anyone else? I've been thru one divorce. I certainly don't want to be divorced again, but when I get way down deep, it's almost like I'm just waiting to be left again.

Poor me, right?
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