Here's the point Moose. Bringing someone into your relationship under the guise that she would be for you and for her is probably not being honest with yourself. She is a new mother with all the physical and emotional stresses that are the norm and very overwhelming at times. This is an immense change with immense responsibility for both of you.
The baby is first for now, not you, not her. Because of her physical, emotional place as well as the sheer lack of time you will both experience if you're parenting is balanced, there is probably little benefit to this accept possibly to you.
Yes it is important to take care of yourself, but it is also important to know when being a supportive husband and father take precedent over your own needs.
I'm a dad too, I've been through all the new dad stuff.
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