Originally Posted by Tia
I would be careful about giving up yourself to "follow all their rules" completely though. What happens if they decide on a rule which is totally abhorrent to you? You'd have to go back on your assertion, and that could be more damaging to their trust in you in the long run.
I think youre absolutely right about not leaving myself open to completely give M&H all control of the rules, i guess what i was trying to say was that i will be comfortable moving at a pace as slow as they need, and will respect their boundaries (so long as mine are also respected
) i should say that instead:P
and thanks Tia! im not feeling particularly beautiful or selfless right now, maybe more like a little mopey and self-pitying, but thanks for confirming what i thought, which is that stepping back for now is the right thing to do.
thanks for helping me edit!