Originally Posted by BlackUnicorn
This forum might even bias one a bit against triads, because a lot of people come here seeking for advice. All those happy triad success stories might just go undetected because they never join forums like these.
I hope there is no bias against triads. They can and do occur... they can be successful. I make an attempt to let that be known personally. The fact is that they more than often don't and therefore it can be dangerous to set oneself up to assume that they are the only option for a poly dynamic. It seems that quite often triads are seen as poly utopia for a couple. This is as not as fantastical as finding a proper unicorn, but almost as close. At least that is what has been witnessed here. As you say though, it could be that there is no time for them to be here when they are just livin' it.