I haven't read everything here. Its sometimes hard to catch up. I will only reply to my thread.
I sense a sort of stubborness to find ways to make this work. There is no room to budge on anything it seems. I feel for you and your situation but it isn't going to change until your attitude changes and you start seeing things in terms of abundance instead of scarcity. There are threads on that if you are interested. A tag search will bring them up.
I can empathize with her. I had aa baby once, I dated and was above board and found most men to be exactly what she is finding. Anyone on here who is dating now would likely say the same.
I still stand by my first post, so I suggest you read it when you are able to read it with a different atitude. Maybe that will help.
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