So he is excited about the possibilities that could occur out of this yet he thinks he is more mono than those here because they are with polys? That makes no sense to me. Wouldn't it be that the monos here are more so because they have had their mononess challenged and know for sure due to the struggles they have been through?
It seems that so far you are doing everything right. You just need to be patient and let everything take its course. If I were in your position I would keep at them in terms of creating a friendship. I would listen to your husband and reflect what he says back to you so he knows you heard him. Lastly I would enjoy what you have and be grateful. In time, things change in terms of emotions. Eventually there will be movement one way or another.
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