Originally Posted by Beodude123
I know I drew a lot of self worth from being Jen's "everything".
Yeah: we're sold this "Need somebody else to make me whole" + "Happy Ever after" package deal, and when it doesn't work out that way, we feel that we're the failures - not the package deal. This is one of my main reasons for being poly. Even though right now I haven't got any sexual relationship going, I consider myself poly because I reject that first part of the package and because I refuse to accept monogamy. That needs some clarification: I could be happy in a relationship that was - for all practical
purposes - monogamous... as long as I didn't feel that my freedom was restricted nor that I was restricting the freedom of someone I loved. It's not the extra sex i need: it's the freedom.