Thanks, Mono. I have suggested that he cyber stalk you a little bit, but mainly to get an idea that a monogamously "wired" person can have a healthy relationship with a polyamorous person - and that it's not without normal relationship struggles, etc. I do believe that he may not be "wired" monogamously or just, not in the same manner that seems to be true for you. For him it's more just adjustments I *believe*. Obviously I cannot claim to know what goes on inside someone's brain.
Thank you again, he and I will definitely be doing a lot of reading around the forum. The whole reason I made him sign up here with me was that reading about similar issues in other relationships can be so therapeutic and help get a whole new perspective on our little world.