Originally Posted by Myrddin
I can imagine myself coming out as gay or bi (if I was gay or bi). I can imagine myself coming out as poly if I was poly. I can't imagine myself coming out as "involuntarily poly".
What about seeing it as your partner coming out as poly? If your partner comes out as bisexual, it doesn't make you bisexual, if your partner comes out as poly, it doesn't make you poly. I realise you're in the relationship, but then it comes down to your partner coming out and you saying you support them and love them the way they are.