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Old 03-31-2011, 06:19 PM
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Originally Posted by Tonberry View Post
why I would want to do that in order to meet someone else when I might not end up doing so.
Not saying that anyone should stop loving anyone at this time but...

If a current partner cannot provide the things we need from a relationship than the only way to do that is to compromise our wants/needs or move on.

As a mono, the romantic love of one person may not be completely severed until a romantic connection is formed with another. The remaining "love" is a different love similar to that of friends, siblings or children.

Turning off love is not something I think a healthy person could do...but I do believe a person can reshape the way they love someone and can express love in different and possibly more healthy ways if the situation is not going to provide for our needs or make us unhealthy.


That is my experience and may not apply to any other monos.
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