thanks for everything guys. we nearly broke up because we both want to be happy and live the life we want, but our love is to strong to leave. we decided to take each day as it comes. my partner only just found out that she could feel this way, so i'll guess we'll try harder to understand eachother.
see the way i feel, is that i've been searching my whole life for my partner and now i have finally found her. i dont have a need to find something in someone else, because she is perfect and i love her so much. she has everything i've ever wanted in a wife. so if this works and we let eachother love eachother the way we want, its going to go one way with the poly, so if i think im strong enough for this, then i'll do it