Originally Posted by Nyx
I asked him to put that relationship on hold for now until we get this other stuff sorted out, but he pretty much refused. I don't know if it is reasonable for me to ask that of him or not...
Uh, ya... reasonable and a bit of a warning sign...
In case you haven't already read my rule?
I totally go by the idea that things should move as fast as the one that is having the issues... if it isn't then it usually all blows up in everyone's face if someone feels pushed to accept and feel safe within the situation at hand before they are ready (putting the whole thing back a few steps or more) .
Yup, I think he needs to slow down and remember that he is not in this alone and not a free agent that can do whatever he wants.