Just wanted to let you know you're not out there alone in NW Ohio
I'm straight and so is my husband, and my boyfriend. We are pretty much closeted still. We started our V in Oct. 2010. We've gotten some flack from the few people we have told. So -- in the "real world" we are invisible but just so you know, we do exist, and are living not too far from you! Hopefully someday a poly group meet-up will form in these parts. So far it looks like the Canadians are having a great time up there; I'm jealous!
Good luck on your quest