Originally Posted by SNeacail
Don't offer, just do. An Aunt figure can be a little involvemet or a lot. Her idea of an Aunt figure could very well mean co-parent. Stop worring about the labels and just do what you are comfortable with. They will let you know what they are comfortable with and in the beginning, they may not even know themselves. What's OK one day may not be the next and vice versa.
This is great advice and is something I've basically been thinking to myself.
Fits well with the whole "don't try to know the unknowable or plan the unplannable" thing.