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Old 03-27-2011, 12:28 AM
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Hi Cap'n,
What I find interesting in your posts is that you say you are committed to completely being honest with each other... and yet:
Originally Posted by CaptainKIDD23 View Post
I dread a divorce, and fear (at times) not being enough for my wife. I struggle with Jealousy and fear of abandonment and loss. The idea of any open marriage, sometimes even hearing that my wife desires another man on occassion triggers intense emotions of rage, jealousy, insecurity and fears of abandonment. I rarely act on it or discuss these feelings with her, because I do not want to become a burden to her.
Maybe she would have been a bit more careful in telling you how she felt if you had really expressed to her the depth of your fears, rage, and jealousy. Just sayin'.
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