Wow, this is a really tough situation. You can't make yourself have feelings for this woman, it doesn't work like that.
People aren't interchangeable, and it seems like you and your husband jumped into a situation with this woman thinking it could somehow turn into the same scenario as the first. Wishful thinking is my guess.
It is important that your needs get met, but do try to have compassion for this woman. It would be wrong to just use and discard her.
Hinge of a V relationship with my husband (Thumper) and boyfriend (T-Rex). Also, mother of a 6 y/o girl by my husband.
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