I don't see how arguing about any of this is helpful. I think it's great to read what works for everyone as pertains to this topic -- isn't it? -- and there really is no need to make someone wrong and someone right. I am sure the OP just wanted some different viewpoints and opinions, not a debate (which gets to be pretty damn tedious to read).
Independent solo polyamorist seeking lover-friends willing to invest in friendship, companionship, and love, but without a need for partnership.
Never confuse commitment with exclusivity, love with ownership, nor sex with intimacy!
For me, it is far better to grasp the Universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring.
~ Carl Sagan
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