Originally Posted by redpepper
Sex for me is a big thing
It is for me too. I love sex and eroticism. I enjoy flirting and sexual tension. I think sex can enhance a relationship through the giving and receiving of pleasure. Is it love? It can be an expression of love, or it can be a way to satisfy a primal urge. Some relationships are meant to go there and some are not, for various reasons.
But for me, if I had a very close male friend I would not consider him one of my poly partners (if Rob and I were practicing poly), unless we had a sexual relationship. I may have a certain type of love for a man and not be sexually involved, but that sexual relationship makes it more love for me. If that makes sense. lol. I had many male friends growing up so maybe that influenced my thinking.