Originally Posted by preciselove
Perhaps it's finding people that they find attractive. If they have spent many years finding the right partner they will of course be upset if they have no alternative or lesser alternatives. Your conclusion that all lovers are equal is quite politically correct but doesn't have much association with reality in my mind.
I would chime in here. I figured out a long time ago that love can in fact be equal (how do you measure love anyways, this is really just a working example) however the relationship may not. Regardless of how the love is, you are absolutely going to have differences in the relationship.
Primary and secondary are not, for everyone, measurements in love.
They can be:
Based on time involved
Anyways, thats my take, and thats not politically correct. Thats how I feel.