Originally Posted by Ariakas
Why rush the coming out party? It reads like you met them, they liked you and they came out.
Hi Ariakas, you are right, that is exactly what happened. After the first disaster, we asked the subsequent girls to not come out, but they did it anyway. I can only guess, but I'm thinking it's part due to the novelty of poly, and part due to the desire to seek approval from their loved ones (so that they won't have to feel guilty). At least now, we have anecdotal stories we can share in order to force the persons to think more carefully about the consequences before coming out.
In any case, I agree with you, I think there's time and place for everything, and the beginning is not the best time to come out. I think we will be more forceful in the future about communicating this fact.