For myself - it's easy... (accepting it is another thing entirely)
I love my fiance and am committed to him in every way...
I also love his best friend and wish I could have the same with him... at the same time.
have you considered being upfront with this person? telling her for instance that you seem to have difficulty with committment, and may possibly be poly but that you dont know yet... that you dont want to hurt her but are very attracted to her and would like to deepen your relationship... but that you want to be comletely clear that you don't know whether you can commit or whether you may want other gf's during your relationship....
it may not be their cup of tea anyway... honesty can't be faulted though - ever.
Smile! It makes people wonder what you've been up to
Engaged to my sweetheart, WaterWolf
Last edited by FlameKat; 03-21-2011 at 06:08 AM.
Reason: grammar/semantics... something pedantic anyway