You're absolutely right
. If I think back to my past relationships I've definitely had interest in other people (especially where the relationship has gone past 12 months). I just didn't allow myself to do anything about them. Someone else said in a thread "polycurious" and perhaps that is what I am at the moment. Right now there is no one else so I feel little urgency, but that might change? Best to negotiate this stuff before anything happens though. And we are coming to an arrangement which seems to be far safer than casual one nighters.