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Old 03-20-2011, 09:31 PM
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Originally Posted by RitaFire View Post
I often wonder if our love is diluted when we share it with more than one intimate partner. We only have so much time to share our love, in our thoughts and actions. And it is time that is not spent with one partner but now more than one. That is less to go around. Hence it is diluted to me.
While time itself is limited, love is not. The trick is to be fully present with the people you're with -- not thinking about someone else or the chores you need to do, but fully engaged -- and even an hour can feel like a lifetime. Give your full attention to someone when you are with them and they will not be shortchanged. If they feel that way, it is not always something you do that causes that. If you feel shortchanged, it isn't always lack of attention, but a belief you hold that what you're getting is not enough.

Don't you have other people in your life that you love? Family, children, friends? Love is a deeper pool than you imagine.
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An excellent blog post on hierarchy in polyamory:
solopoly.net/2014/10/31/why-im-not-a-secondary-partner-the-short-version/
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