Originally Posted by RitaFire
How many of you married and poly people got married with the original intention of remaining monogamous? And how have you dealt with poly?
We married with intention of being monogamous 12 years ago.
I fucked that up.
In regards to poly-it's been a struggle, but the MAJORITY of our issues are communication issues. They've been sorely exacerbated by the poly.
The BIGGEST thing that caused issues in our relationship was my affair.
I honestly believe that had we discussed polyamory and worked up to it without such a messed up "trust and deal breaker" move by me... things woudl have gone much, much differently.