Thanks for giving me so much to think about. You are entirely right when you say that I feel guilty for putting a restraint on tommyc. If he wasn't poly, I couldn't be with him. He's married to Sea.
He says he doesn't feel like I'm being unfair, and maybe I'm just worried the day will come when he feels differently. Something we will have to deal with if and when the time comes. No point in borrowing trouble when you're already in debt.
I don't ever want to take anything away from him. Whether it be his nature or not. To change him now, would be to change who I fell in love with, and I wouldn't change that person for the world.