Thanks both for your thoughts and comments! I have spoken to K openly about my struggles and she understands and is sympathetic to my feelings.
We are all in the process of trying to set up a schedule that everyone can feel safe and comfortable with. I come from past relationships where open communication never seemed to be valued as much so this is all new to me.
Im already learning early on how important honesty, integrity and open communication truly are in a poly setting and I do feel the three of us are striving for that.
I will comment more later!