Originally Posted by BlackUnicorn
1) BDSM. Does. Not. Excite. Me. Sexually. Will a mixed-orientation relationship with me and a BDSM enthusiast ever work, or shall we eventually grow frustrated/bored? I'm hoping it could be a shared hobby, I'm always open to learning new stuff, but can I really trivialize someone's sexual identity to the level of a hobby?
Relationships between poly vanillas and kinksters can work. Lots of kinky people also enjoy straight up hot intense vanilla sex. As long as they are poly, they could get the good vanilla sex with you and look for the sprinkles and hot fudge sauce elsewhere.
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