Something to lighten things up... How were you asked to be in your poly relationship?
Three years ago, I was out in a bar. I know a cliche... but there you go. I was with alot of other people there I knew, but was the only single. I had gotten used to being single after 20 years of marriage. Now I wouldn't call myself unattractive. I'm 5 feet tall, just under a hundred pounds, had red hair at the time. (have changed that color many times since)and blue eyes.
A woman that I had known for many years, started talking to me. We joked around. I have been known to flirt. Alot. She said to her husband, "Can we take her home?" He said, "Do we know her? Please tell me we know her." I laughed, not realizing that they were serious. Why would I? Little niave me had never even heard of swinging let alone actually doing it. Sleep with a married man, and his wife knows, are you kidding me?
After many months of meeting, and Sea and I talking on i/m we decided to have a little get together. I remember asking her if tommyc would mind that we were making plans for him. I can still hear her laughter.
The next day I was so embarassed. I didn't know how to handle the situation. They were perfectly calm and collected. I couldn't look anyone in the eye. Especially Sea.
Needless to say, over time things became easier. It only took about 2 1/2 years. LOL. Sounds so funny to say that now. I love them both so much.
What started out as just having fun, turned into so much more. We didn't know that's what we were looking for until we found it. Lifestyle might have gotten us here, but love keeps us here.