I have been married for 20 years, we started the swinging lifestyle about 13 years ago, mostly with single males, just me not hubby. I found myself feeling empty with one night stands and booty calls. An experience last summer with someone made me and us realize that we could make a poly relationship work. That relationship did not work out, the other person did not want that. I met someone last November and we have been seeing each other on a regular basis and we have fallen in love with each other. My husband and I both have talked with him about the eventual desire to have what we termed a three way marriage. Hubby is straight so it will be a situation where I guess I will have two husbands if it all works out. The other person seems like he's open to this. So I guess we'll see how things work out.
I hope to gain some insight from others who have had more experience in this than me.