@nycindie: Hey thanks so much for your response. You have struck so many chords it's frightening! Part of the difficulty I'm facing is that I don't know *anyone* who is doing what I'm doing, which means I can't really talk it through with anyone. I am completely committed to honesty, which means that everyone in my life (including my parents, and work colleagues, gulp) knows whay I'm up to (in general terms, not necessarily all the gory / glory details!), but given that I'm pursuing something that no-one else I know seems to be seeking then I do get a lot of 'you're worth more than that' comments (or 'you'll find the right person' etc). I'll check out both those links. Thanks again.
@imaginary illusion: thank you.