Welcome to the board, Eloise. Sounds like 2 things are going on here.
1) You're a unicorn and you don't like one of your partners.
2) You're jealous your couple had sex with another couple.
Successful unicorn/couple relationships are extremely rare. It does usually happen you like one person of the couple better than the other.
Also, do you feel forced to have girl on girl sex with the woman when you are not bi and don't desire it?
But, it does sound like you are jealous "your" couple had casual sex with another couple. Did you talk to them about it? I am sorry you got so angry you hit a wall. Literally.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
The single biggest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place. --Shaw
me: Mags, female, pansexual, 59, loving and living with
miss pixi, female, pansexual, 37
Last edited by Magdlyn; 03-14-2011 at 10:42 PM.