Originally Posted by Lemondrop
Because I'm in a quad and because I love them all. I want to have a relationship with all of them. But my background, my beliefs, my moral compass have all always pointed to monogamous. It's hard for me to understand the feelings I'm having now. Part of me says, "This feels right"; part of me says, "How can I even consider this? I'm going to lose everything". I want to be in this quad with these people, but I'm struggling to understand how everything works, and hoping to get good advice from people who have already been where I am now.
You can't loose anything EVER if you are true to yourself. I get the feeling from your post, even tho you did not SAY it in words is the FEELINGS of faithfulness. This may sound a bit simplistic, but what about seeing the whole quad as the being that you want to be monogamous with? Looking at it as a family, you can still feel faithful to yourself AND the family, AND the individuals in it.
I hope this was clearer than mud. lol