I would suggest just leaving it for now. Everything changes as time goes on. The time isn't right yet. I think I would accept the compromise for now and make it known that this is a compromise... there will be further negotiation as you all go along, but for now there is no set boundary. Then keep at communicating what you would like to accomplish, at a pace that seems appropriate and respectful to all involved. You will need to realize that you will have to meet half way as they will have their own idea about what is comfortable. Enjoy your time and work on achiveing a place of acceptance and comfort for all.
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