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Old 03-14-2011, 01:18 AM
brambles38 brambles38 is offline
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Default how much to advertise/boundaries.

I am curious about other perspectives.

Say you were considering someone as a primary but still working out what you want from one another.. how would you feel about them stating on their FB info that they are looking for many lovers?

In theory, I am ok with it. But at a gut level it puts me off and bothers me. I can't quite figure out why. I don't want to make a fuss about it to my lover but I don't want to ignore my feelings either.

It feels like there is something careless or unfeeling about advertising for new people like that. And seems a bit disrespectful to one's current lover/s. But I am also open to new people so what is the difference?

I am still very carefully weighing if the poly life is right for me. Maybe my concern is rooted in mono. point of view?


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